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Dear Diana,
I am an unmarried girl working for a multinational company. Recently, one of my colleagues told my friend she could not believe the things being said about me by the people in the office.
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She said I am such an innocent and good-looking girl, but the guys in the office will do anything to be friends with me as they think I have a loose character and go out with different men.
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I was not aware that such rumours were doing the rounds as even my close friends did not think it necessary to tell me about it though they knew. 
And this girl who is only an office colleague is so concerned aboutu00a0u00a0 me. I am very upset and scared as this will ruin my life and also cause problems for me in the future.
I am sure this news has been spread by a guy who had approached me and I said no to him. I really don't know how to handle this situation.
Deepa
Dear Deepa,
Is this office colleague-cum-friend of yours trustworthy? Can you take take her word as the gospel truth in this case? If yes, then in stead of blaming the guy spreading such rumours you should reconsider your choice of friends.
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You should confront your friends and ask them why they kept mum about the issue. There are chances they might have thought it best to ignore it.
Make sure you give a earful to the guy who is spreading such rumours. If you haven't done anything, you have nothing to fear. In fact, your personal life should not be of interest to your colleagues. Office gossip is part of the working environment.
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If things go really out of hand, approach any senior or authority that looks into grievances. Don't let loose talk bother you so much.
She's asked me to wait
Dear Diana,
I'm 19. There is this girl who's been living near my house. One day, by mistake, I just happened to bump into her while passing by. She smiled at me.u00a0
I don't know if it was destiny... every time I stepped out she'd also come out. One day, I proposed and she asked me to give her time as she wanted to concentrate on studies. Why is she behaving like this?
Rajesh
Dear Chintan,
Well, a smile sure has a language of its own. But buddy, you're reading a little too much into it. The girl's fond of you (that explains the smile).
Probably, she is considering the situation before taking any decision. All you have to do is play the waiting game and of course, give her enough reason to smile at you.
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Give her all the time she needs. This might be the first time someone has approached her. While she takes her time, make yourself irresistible!
If they can 'do it', why can't I?
Dear Diana,
I am a 28-year-old unmarried guy who always has sex on his mind. Once by mistake I saw my parents making love and I regret it. At home, my mother is the law and my father has no say in it.
But I realised that when it comes to sex they get along very well.
My marriage is round the corner and whenever I do not listen to my mom sheu00a0says that she will delay my marriage at which I get frustrated and think if they can do it at their age and not care about me.
The bottom line is should I confront them regarding this or it would it mean I am interfering which I'd hate.
Santosh
Dear Santosh,
You're 28. By that measure, you're old enough to think for yourself and fend for yourself too (I assume). What your parents do in the confines of their bedroom or who wears the pants in your family should have no bearing on the decisions you make.
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When you say, you don't listen to your mother, does your disobedience entail total non-cooperation in facilitating your marriage? If that's the case, I suggest you tread carefully before you do anything else. What they do at their age is no business of yours.
Similarly, what you do at yours (while it may well be of prime concern to them) is your own problem. If it bothers you so much, live separately or fund your own marriage without their blessings. Your call.
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