Didn't want to be her baby's daddy. But she's adamant!

Dear Diana,
I'm 24 and from Delhi. A few months back my bhabhi came to stay at our place. It was great fun spending time with her. She is very friendly. One night, I came home late one night from some party, my bhabhi opened the door. we chatted for around half an hour. I was drunk and fell asleep in her room. That night, something happened. The next day on, she stated treating me like a woman would treat her husband. A few months later, she told me that she was bearing my child and wants to give birth to it as she loves me a lot and that her husband (my brother) does not know about this. I never wanted all this to happen. It was just a mistake. I still respect her as my bhabhi and also asked her to abort the child but she is adamant not to.
Sandeep
Dear Sandeep,
One could well saw that she took advantage of the fact that you were drunk. That said, if you passed out and don't remember a thing of what happened the previous night, it's also quite possible nothing happened and that she's playing you. To know for a fact, call her bluff and demand a paternity test. It is also quite possible that her own husband (your brother) is the father. Who's to say or know otherwise? You'll only know if you can figure it out, now that you're sobered up and in your senses. It's imperative you find out what happened that night.

I want her to be my girlfriend!
Dear Diana,
I'm 17 and she's 17. Two months ago, we met in vacation classes and she's my friend now. I think she's attractive. Earlier, I had asked for her cellphone number but she didn't give it. But when I went to her place to borrow books, she gave it to me. Now, we chat daily. On my birthday, I invited her out for a movie, but she ignored me. Next day, I purchased a pastry for her; she accepted. I think she's attractive. I want her to be my girlfriend. How should I convince her that I love her? Please help me out.
XYZ
Dear Friend,
The easiest thing for you to do, would be to go out on double dates (with another couple) to movies and other stuff so she can be at ease and be able to trust you implicitly. You have to be trustworthy too. She has to find something special in you for you to be her boyfriend. If she finds that special something, things will click between you two.

How can everything be MY fault?
Dear Diana,
My family members always harass me. All their frustrations are vented out on me. I am scolded even when it isn't my fault. When I am on my best behaviour, they say don't get excited and act like a fool. Even if it isn't my fault, they ask me to own up to something I haven't done. Don't I have any self-respect? I am the youngest; and maybe that is why I have to endure all this. No one understands me. I am in hell. What should I do?
Sadaf
Dear Sadaf,
Quietly ignore their barbs and don't do what they tell you. In time, they will back off and understand that it's your way of fighting back. They never praise you when you do somethign well. That's bad on their part and you have to make them aware of that. I can understand what you're going through. Be strong.