He betrayed her when she was pregnant with his child!

Name withheld on request

Dear Friend,

Let's just take it slowly, dude. First of all, you have to learn to respect women and stop treating them as objects or as means to an end. Stop being selfish and good things will come to you. You will have to learn to put a prospective partner above yourself. And unless you're paying for it, sex doesn't happen in a jiffy. You'll need to build on developing the intimacy first. Remember, good things come to those who wait. Masturbation is a form of sexual release and may stave off the urge to have sex but it certainly doesn't affect your health.

What's on his mind?

Dear Diana,

I've been in a relationship for a year now. We had three break-ups in between over his temper flares. But he always apologises. This time around, I didn't forgive him because I guess he was never serious about me, but he cried and cried, he even told me that he wants to marry me. I trusted him and we made up for two months. A break-up followed. His cousin is a good friend. When I told her about this, she said that he can't make up his mind between two girls: a classmate and me. He can't live without her and can't see me with another guy. We belong to the same caste while the other girl doesn't. I wonder what's on his mind.
Name withheld on request

Dear Friend,

You know what? This guy's just an opportunist and is behaving like nothing more than a dog in the manger. He can't love both her and you! And you needn't really bother in any case now, since the two of you broke up. If he does show an inclination of getting back with you, I think you ought to tell him to bugger the hell off. It doesn't matter if you belong to the same castes, if you're over him, don't reallyu00a0 give a damn (to the thought of being with him).