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It was all cool between us. Why is she being this way?

Updated on: 31 March,2010 10:22 AM IST  | 
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I have been dating this girl for about five months now and she has meant the world to me

It was all cool between us. Why is she being this way?

Dear Diana,

I have been dating this girl for about five months now and she has meant the world to me. We are young and still live with our parents, and I met her through my job. Everything was going great, we were always talking/texting back and forth, and I always had the sense we wanted to be around each other.

That was until one Friday night. Things seemed alright that night as we were still talking and laughing at her home. The next day, when I tried to talk to her, she acted as if I never existed and wouldn't say much to me. This behaviour continued Sunday, which really started to mess me up mentally.

Since then I haven't tried to talk to her because of her attitude towards me, and am trying to keep a low profile until either one of us says something either via phone, text, email, etc. My questions are: 1) Why would someone I gave absolute dedication to, just decide to blow me off like that?u00a0 2) What should I do? Should I try to remain secluded and give her breathing space or should I try to contact her?

Name withheld



Dear Friend,

When dating, tons of people do this. You have just started dating and it could be likely someone else has caught her eye. Dating is a selection process and this situation you are going through is a huge learning experience. Leave her alone... give her space.

Keep your pride and your sense of dignity intact and stop jumping through her hoops. If her interest has waned and she doesn't have the respect to tell you to your face, you need to be strong and move on. Give yourself time to recover as this is hurtful, but when you are over this..get out there and meet other girls. If she comes back, you need to think smart.u00a0 Maybe she has a good reason for blowing you off, maybe she doesn't. You deserve some kind of explanation and that has to come from her.

I like another guy now!

Dear Diana,

I have been faithful to my husband since we got married a few years back but for au00a0 few months now, I like another guy. I am confused now and do not know what to do!


Name withheld

Dear Friend,

Is this other guy worth throwing your marriage away for? Is he worth cheating on your husband? I'm sure it's a different, exhilrating experience to fall for guy you see yourself having an affair with, but you have to figure out if he's worth the trouble.

Maybe I am bisexual... then again, maybe I'm not

Dear Diana,

I am 21 and a very good-looking guy. I am very confused about my sexuality, though. I am attracted to men. I like to dress up as a girl in private and want my man to treat me as a girl and I have many such male friends who treat me like that. I am also attracted to females and can get an erection in their company but don't like having sex with them. I figured I might be bisexual. But if that is so, why don't I want to have sex with gals?



Ronak

Dear Ronak,

You love cross-dressing. You enjoy the attention of your male friends and know for a fact that you are attracted to men. You are also attracted to women and are aroused by them under favourable circumstances I don't claim to be an authority on this but I wonder why you should be confused about your sexuality.

I figure you're bisexual despite not wanting to have sex with women because bisexuality is sexual behaviour or an orientation involving physical or romantic attraction to both males and females.

Note the "or" between physical and romantic. In any case, these are just labels and tags created by society. Does it matter to you what you are as long as you are happy being with the people who matter to you?

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