Let's 'Define the Relationship': Indians share the 'right time' to ask the question

Relationships are evolving every day While it was probably easy earlier today the online dating scene has changed the way we look at them and most often than not there comes a moment when you need to define itSo what are we is a question that has sent shivers down countless daters spine Defining the relationship is a pivotal moment in dating and carries even more importance in online datingAccording to the Indian dating app QuackQuacks survey it is the most panicinducing and overdue moment for daters but still something makes people take the plunge According to the 10536 people who participated in the survey while the timing of the talk varies the reasoning is never randomThe app selected participants from Tier1 2 and 3 cities ranging between 25 and 35 for an allround understanding respondents were also deliberately picked from various professional fields like the IT sector administration healthcare and medicine marketing and sales finance social media content creation and more to understand the impact of professional life on the decisionmaking processThe apps founder and CEO Ravi Mittal says Defining the relationship in todays dating scenario is not about putting a label on it and calling the person yours Today its more about clarity and being on the same page Daters dont want to keep someone on the hook they understand the toxicity of the trend and thats where the importance of Defining The Relationship peaks We see that defining the connection at the right time can help avoid so many unnecessary heartbreaksA big changeSometimes a big change like moving to a different city starting a new job or even a marriage or big event at home can trigger something in people that makes them reflect on their relationship 27 per cent of daters from Tier 1 and 2 cities admitted that a significant life change prompted them to think What do I want from this relationship Surbhi 29 from Delhi said When you are about to start a new chapter in life you suddenly start thinking whether or not you want to take this person into that chapter For me it was moving to a different country for higher studies I finally took the next step and decided this relationship means too much to me to leave undefinedHealthy emotional checkinOne of the less dramatic reasons around 19 per cent of female daters between 25 and 30 said they initiate the DTR or lsquodefine the relationshiprsquo talks because they are emotionally invested in a relationship for a significant period of time and it feels like the appropriate next step Its a form of mental checkin to ensure everything is on the right track and they are not wasting their time on a connection that will eventually turn out to be a whole lot of nothingThe twinge jealousyWhile jealousy is rarely the right reason to make big decisions it can be an eyeopener says 3 in 5 men from metros and suburbs About 22 per cent of men using the app said nothing makes a man put a virtual ring on the relationship faster than seeing someone else trying to slide their way into their matchs life The same goes for seeing close friends settling down And 14 per cent of these men also admitted that watching their connection even merely cosying up to someone else has been the biggest motivator for their DTR moment Ankush an assistant professor from Mumbai said For me that twinge of jealousy was a wakeup call I realised if I am getting jealous over silly things I must truly have feelings for her And if I care this much I should figure out where we stand before I lose herClarity after chaosNot all DTR moments come peacefully there are times when clarity comes after a moment of chaos 14 per cent of the participants shared having the conversation after some kind of emotional turmoil in the relationship 2 in 5 people said it was after they realised one of them was not exclusive while 3 in 6 daters revealed it was after they understood they have more feelings for their match than they cared to admit The insight from the survey shows most online daters believe defining a relationship should be taken seriously even if its a little late and for more than 35 per cent of them it helped them either move forward with the relationship or move on from itatOptionskeyd0ddb8ef8f1a62a8cdd22fac27fc5ea7formatiframeheight90width728params