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'Why can't two girls get married in India?'

Updated on: 20 August,2010 08:08 AM IST  | 
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Ask two lesbian lovers as they go in hiding to escape their families' wrath

RAJNI and Sunitha are not just names. They are in the process of becoming exemplary figures for those seeking same sex unions.

The two Delhi girls aged 20 and 21 years respectively chose to go ahead with their decision to join each other in matrimony despite stiff opposition from their respective families and friends. The couple got married in a civil court on August 11 and got their certificate on August 16.


Together: Family members of Rajni have alleged that Sunitha runs a
sex racket and she had lured girls by offering them marriage earlier too.
However, Rajni claimed that she married Sunitha out of her own free will.


However, things got ugly when the matter became public and Rajni's family threatened to kill them for the fear of public shame. Rajni and Sunitha approached the Mayur Vihar police station, seeking protection but by that time Rajni's family members and some colony residents had also reached there.

The cops had to put the couple in the lock up to "ensure their safety".
Both of them have left for an undisclosed location. When MiD DAY contacted Sunitha over the phone, she refused to tell where she was as the cops had asked the couple to keep their whereabouts secret for their own safety.

"I met Rajni while working for a private firm. Both of us became instant friends and developed a liking for each other. She used to take care of me and we decided to get married only after a month of being together," Sunitha told MiD DAY over the phone.

"It was a very tough decision. We knew nobody will support us. Rajni's family will never accept the fact that we love each other and want to live together. However, my family will not pose any problems. We will have to live in hiding for some time but then we were sort of prepared for it," she said.

Rajni said she had been regularly tortured by her family after she was made to abort her four-month foetus by her mom. She had borne the child out of a love affair with a boy from her area. But she refused to share details of it.

"My family used to beat me regularly. Now, I am with Sunitha and have left everybody behind. Though I am scared for my life but I am not going to back out now. I know people would try to put all sorts of allegations against us, but then we are ready to face anything," said a defiant Rajni.

However, Rajni's family claimed that Sunitha had been running a sex racket and lured young girls into her trap by marrying them.

"I am sure she will sell off my daughter. She (Sunitha) dresses like a guy with a rum bottle in her pocket, a handkerchief tied around her forehead. I can't allow my daughter to go away with a girl like her," said Prawesh, Rajni's mother.

The police told MiD DAY that they will do everything to ensure that the couple remains safe.
"There is no case or complaint but since the couple has sought protection we have asked them to keep their whereabouts a secret. The concerned police station would provide protection to them. Rajni's mother had lodged a missing's complaint but she appeared at the police station with Sunitha," said a senior police official.

First 'Indian' Gay Wedding

Asif Khan, 30, a Muslim from Ahmedabad exchanged rings with longtime Hindu partner Sanjiv Sha, 42, a UK citizen of Indian origin (names changed) on August 17 near a Hindu temple in Kathmandu. The couple was blessed by a Hindu priest.
A function was attended by gays, lesbians, transgendered and transvestites from Kathmandu who contributed to organize a small feast and party for the newlyweds.
u00a0"We chose Nepal as there is no legal sanction for same sex marriages in India. I am very excited and happy," said Khan, a sales executive who met Sha during a visit to UK in 2003.
The wedding was organised by Blue Diamond Society, an organisation working for rights of sexual minorities and Pink Mountain, the country's first travel agency promoting gay and lesbian tourism.
"The couple arrived in Kathmandu four days back and sought our help in getting married. We took a minimal fee of US $ 200 to arrange the wedding," said BDS founder Sunil Babu Pant, Nepal's first gay lawmaker.
A marriage certificate (not legal) would be given to the couple by BDS and the amount used for welfare of persons belonging to sexual minorities.
The couple plans a short honeymoon in India before settling in UK. Sha, a social worker from Leicester had taken permission from the British High Commission in New Delhi to go ahead with the wedding.u00a0
"I was worried for the safety of my partner and thought Nepal is a safe destination. We now look forward to a happy future," said Sha.
In December 2007, Nepal's Supreme Court granted equal status to sexual minorities. Nepal's Constituent Assembly is in the process of granting equal rights to them including legalising same sex marriages.




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