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Hi Sandhya,
I'm 28 and want to move out of home. I'm stuck in a dead end job, with parents who chew my brains every day about marriage. To make things worse, my younger sister, who has been in a steady relationship for four years, is getting hitched this year. So, my parents are really on my case. I've tried, reluctantly, to sift through profiles on matrimonial websites, but haven't found anyone I liked and am not able to adjust to the idea of marrying someone I know nothing of. I've been in a couple of relationships before and although they didn't work out, I can't seem to let go of the romantic ideal that I'll find my own soulmate. I do want companionship, but I first want to have my career sorted out, and let things in my love life happen on their own. All the pressure is getting too much for me and I really need some peace of mind. How else can my parents expect me to find a partner? Do you think moving out will help? When I bring it up with them, I know all hell will break loose. What do you think I should do?
Thanks, Lost
Dear Lost,
Stop worrying and stressing. You're not alone in this. Have you told your parents what you have told me honestly, without fearing their reaction? Talk to them as you would with a friend and explain to them that their pressure brings you down and upsets you and that they need to go easy on you for your happiness. If that doesn't work, just give it some time and on a separate occasion tell them politely that you feel the need to be independent and live alone for a bit. Having said that, I'm hoping you can afford it and you realise that living alone also comes with its problems. Think it through peacefully and then go for it with faith and confidence. Love, meanwhile, will happen when it has to. You can't go looking for it. You can't just believe that it's there for everyone and will come. At the same time, you cannot put it on hold for work or career ufffd stay open to it and accept it whenever it comes, and everything will fall into place. Looking at it as career versus love is a myopic approach to life. Your career doesn't decide who you are; living life to the fullest does and love will always play a key part in completing that journey.
Love, Sandhya
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