I am paying for my father’s misdeeds!

I am in love with a guy who won’t marry me unless he can convince his parents that my family are honourable people. They won’t accept me because my father lost his job a few decades ago for embezzling funds, and my boyfriend’s father eventually heard about it. This has nothing to do with me and I have tried my best to tell them that my father has paid for his mistake many times over. His parents know we love each other, but they say they can’t imagine a wedding simply because they don’t know how their relatives will react to seeing my father at the ceremony. I can’t seem to understand how this can be used to ruin the lives of two people, but my boyfriend is adamant that he can’t go ahead unless they agree. I don’t want to lose him. What should I do?
You may not want to lose him, but he seems perfectly okay with the possibility of losing you for reasons that make no sense at all. To hold you responsible for something your father did is ridiculous, as is the notion of keeping two people apart for fear of what relatives may say. None of these reasons are valid, and your boyfriend’s inability or refusal to see this only shows that he isn’t as concerned about your presence in his life as you would like him to be. If he can’t go against his parents’ wishes to do something that concerns his own happiness, he isn’t the kind of person you can expect to stand up for you in the future either. I suggest you give him a last chance to reconsider, before thinking about whether this relationship is worth the effort.

Should I try and convince my better half to do something against her wishes if it ultimately benefits us both?
That depends upon what you want her to do, and how open you are with your explanation. Honesty can be surprisingly effective, so I urge you to try it.