I've had an on-off boyfriend for the last few years
Dear Diana,
I've had an on-off boyfriend for the last few years. We're back together now and have been going strong for five monthsu00a0-- things are better than ever. But lately, I've started feeling this guilt about people that I've kissed or may have kissed when we were on breaks and stuff. I haven't told him everything, but he does know most of the important parts (if you know what I mean).
I don't want to tell him anymore because he's so hurt knowing that I've kissed so many people. I live in a small town and everybody knows everybody else. I can't help bumping into people that I've kissed or whatever and it's worse when I'm with my boyfriend. The guilt is really affecting me and it's becoming overwhelming. I feel like I've made a fool of my boyfriend. There isn't any point in hurting him with my mistakes, but I can't seem to escape them and just be happy either. Please help.
Name withheld
Dear Friend,
If you were on breaks at the time, then let it go. The more you tell him, the more upset and more insecure he will be. You didn't cheatu00a0u00a0-- you were on breaks at the time. You've got to accept that things have happened and that's it. The more you panic, the more he will suspect that something is wrong. You've made mistakes, now let them go. Sometimes it's just better to not dig up the past.
You are happy with him and you have told him all the major things that happened. Don't worry or regret other things. Let it go and be happy. Unless he has any particular problems of being jealous or insecure then telling him how you're feeling isn't going to be such a big deal for him. Your boyfriend and you love each other and I'm sure he wouldn't want you suffering over something he could quite easily reassure you about. Put it all behind you and move on.
She kisses me, but won't date me....
Dear Diana,
I am 18. There is this girl who is older than me. We eat together, study together, play together and we have even kissed.
The problem is that she says we can't date and I don't know why. I have fallen in love with this girl.
Jatin
Dear Jatin,
She doesn't seem to be into you. I think this might just be a fling for her. She isn't serious, which is why she doesn't want to date. Or maybe she is ashamed of what others may think of the age difference. I think you should move on before you get even more into her. Be tough.u00a0
I just want to get over him, but I cant seem to...
Dear Diana,
I am desperate. I don't know what to do anymore. How on earth can I forget someone that I love so much but can't be with? I have tried to go out with my friends, have fun, keep myself busy at all times, but nothing I do helps. He is on my mind 24/7. I even dream about him.
We were friends not long ago and he wanted me to be his girlfriend but I refused as I wanted to get to know him better. But now he is gone. He has a girlfriend, and I don't want to create any problems for him. Besides he left without saying goodbye. I just want to get over him. Please help me.
Jovita
Dear Jovita,
It's impossible to stop thinking about it. The only thing that helps is time. Feeling this way is good, because you're not bottling up your emotions. It's healthy to get your emotions out. If you think it will help, tell him how you feel about him. That way you can properly get your feelings out. You can deal with his reaction head on.
There won't be anything clouding your mind. There isn't a lot you can do apart from making sure you express your emotions. If you don't want to tell him, thenu00a0 write your feelings down in a diary or something. You can keep it private but you can still get your emotions out in a creative way. It helps you come to terms with how you feel. Remember: This too shall pass. Time heals.
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