I am a 16-year-old guy. And I'm gay
Dear Diana,
I am a 16-year-old guy. And I'm gay. Me and my boyfriend have been together for about six months now. I really love him, and know that he loves me too. I know that I want to be with him but I don't want to get intimate with him just yet. He is 18 and he wants to take our relationship to the next level. I want to also but I'm afraid at the same time. What should I do?
DS
Dear DS,
The legal age to have sex is 18. So it is illegal to have sex before that. Your boyfriend is 18, so it's ok for him. You don't want to get caught and end up a criminal. Personally I think that laws regarding age of consent in our country are draconian, and so are our laws in society, it's worse when it comes to the gay community.
Everyone is different and you must do what FEELS right for YOU. Don't be pressurised into something you don't want to, but do explain to your boyfriend how you feel. I would suggest you take it slow, as you still seem unsure about the level of intimacy you want. Do what you feel is comfortable and enjoyable. If you have any doubts whatsoever, it's better to wait. Because you absolutely cannot take it back once you do it. So it's important to be sure.
I like a girl who can't speak my language
Dear Diana,
There is this girl I like, but she doesn't speak any Hindi or English, and she lives in Gujarat. I met her but there's a languange barrier. I recently found out that she wrote me a love letter and read it to her friends. My family stays near her and my sister heard about this and informed me. My question is why did she do thisu00a0-- why did she write au00a0 letter to me? Should I meet her on my next trip? And what do I say?
Bombay Boy
Dear Bombay Boy,
As to why she wrote a love letter... my guess is, she likes you. Also if you both live in different states, and there is a language barrier how much do you really know each other? And how can you be in love with someone if you don't know the person? If you have strong feelings for her, don't let language stand in the way. Maybe I am a hopeless romantic but this could work. In order for it to work, though, one of you is eventually gonna have to learn the other's language. Why don't you learn a bit of Gujarati? Saru che!
I want more from my boyfriend
Dear Diana,
My boyfriend and I are both 20 year olds. We have known each other for nine months now.u00a0 A few months ago, when we were making out, he slipped his hands into my pants, I later said to him that we should slow it down for a while. And he did. Now I feel like I am ready for more. How do I now show him it's ok? I am still not ready to have sex, but just want to move a few steps ahead of where we are now. Please advise.
Name withheld
Dear Friend,
If you're ready for it then as you two are making out just move his hand to where you want it and he'll take the hint. Whisper in his ear how far you want it to go this time. He'll be thrilled. He might think you want to go all the way so make sure he knows what you are up for.
After all you don't want to come across as a tease, and you dont want him to feel like a pervert for pushing you to do soemthing you aren't quite ready for. Might be a good idea to chat with him. As long as you both are clear what you want, there is no chance of any misunderstanding.
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