Dr love with mid-day: Friend has a crush on man I’m dating!

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I am in a bit of an embarrassing situation with one of my close friends because the person she has a huge crush on is someone I am currently dating. I have known about her feelings for a while, but the guy asked me out and I accepted. We hit it off and it feels as if he really likes me. When my friend finds out, I am sure she will think of it as a betrayal on my part even though I have not said anything to this guy about her. I am worried that she may be angry enough to end our friendship. How do I resolve this without upsetting her? I think I like this guy, and it feels as if we may have a future together. I just don't want it to always be awkward between me and my friend because of this.
You are all adults capable of being honest about this. To hide it from your friend only delays an inevitable confrontation about why this has been happening without her knowledge. A friendship can only last if there is honesty, and you are currently withholding information in the hope that she will be okay with this. Give her a call, tell her what's happening, and apologise for any potential misunderstanding because that is the best thing you can do. As for awkwardness, time alone can resolve that if you and your friend can come to terms with what is important. Being in a relationship doesn't have to ruin anything if you can all accept that having feelings for someone doesn't mean they have to be reciprocated.

Who should I talk to about getting cosmetic surgery? My boyfriend has been hinting about the way some parts of my face will look with a bit of work, but I don't know whom to trust because my friends will dissuade me from doing anything.
Speak to a medical professional or someone you respect because there are implications to this that can permanently alter your body.

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