Dr love with mid-day: I want him to take me back in his life

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A few months ago, something happened between my boyfriend and me to end our relationship. I know it was my fault, so I accepted it without an argument. Last weekend, we met at a party and ended up spending the night together. The next morning, he told me that he still can't take me back because he doesn't trust me anymore. I don't know what to do because I think I still have feelings for him and meeting again only made me realise how much I miss having him in my life. I don't know what I can do to change his mind, but I have written him a letter saying I am willing to wait for as long as it takes if he is willing to think about us seriously. Am I wasting my time?
You know where things stand so a letter promising to wait is presumably based on something you are willing to do while knowing it may never happen. Your ex-boyfriend may have valid reasons for not wanting to give this a chance, so all you can do is hope given that you have both been clear about your intentions. Time may lead to a chance of circumstances, but you have to be honest with yourself about the chances of this not happening and the pain you will inevitably put yourself through while hoping for a different outcome.

My parents are extremely strict and it's affecting my relationship with my boyfriend because they control how much time I can spend with him. Is there any way I can get them to treat me like an adult and let me choose how I live my life?
It often takes people time to evaluate their relationship with their children and acknowledge that they have minds and identities of their own. This may require patience on your part and all you can do is express how you feel and make them comfortable with the idea that you can be trusted to make the right decisions for yourself.

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