'He wants a threesome, but I hate the idea'
I have been married for 9 years. A week ago, my husband told me he has always fantasised about having a threesome with two women and asked if I would be okay with it...
I have been married for 9 years. A week ago, my husband told me he has always fantasised about having a threesome with two women and asked if I would be okay with it. He wanted me to be okay with it, but I don't like the idea of a threesome at all. Also, I hate the fact that he has had this fantasy for so long and it involves someone else. What should I do about it?
If you don't like it, you shouldn't do it. Simple. He isn't forcing you into it at all. It's perfectly acceptable for your husband to have a fantasy, because that's what a fantasy is all about. It's not real. I don't think you should read too much into this idea of involving another woman, because he hasn't actually done anything wrong yet. He's just being open about his fantasy with you because he obviously trusts you. Tell him how you feel and why you don't like the idea. He will learn to live without his fantasy coming to life. Most of us do.
I have been considering online dating for a while now, but I'm a little nervous about what to expect. Are there things I should look out for? Or people I should avoid? It's strange because this is about interacting with complete strangers. I'm excited, but also wary.
The fact that you recognise it for what it is means you know exactly how to approach it. How would you approach an interaction with a complete stranger in real life? That's what you should do online as well. Avoid anyone who sounds intimidating, sends you messages you find offensive, or asks you for money or photographs of yourself. The sensible thing to do is to avoid sharing too many personal details, until you actually meet some of these people and, hopefully, get to know them a little better. Anonymity on the Internet is a great thing, but also encourages the worst kind of people.
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