My boyfriend told me that there are two things he hates the most
Dear Diana,
My boyfriend told me that there are two things he hates the most: a) If someone lies to him or b) cheats on him. Well, we have been going out for a year now and just the other day, I remembered thatu00a0 when we met, he asked me how far I had gone with my ex.
I told him that we didn't really do anything, but that's not exactly true. My ex has seen me naked and we even indulged in a little foreplay but that's it. We never had sex. Now, my boyfriend doesn't like lies and I didn't actually tell him the truth because we had only just met.
Now I'm wondering: will he get angry because I kept this from him and not believe me anymore? I don't think that there is a way that he can find out but still, I can't be 100% sure. He doesn't know my ex but it's a small world... I guess what I am asking is:u00a0 should I tell him or just keep quiet and let things be the way they are?
Name withheld
Dear Friend,
People do discuss their pasts with their significant others (on some prodding) but the "others" are never really ready for what they are going to hear. There's no real way of knowing how a person will react given certain conditions. Personally, I really see no need to mention something so petty as a touching encounter. I think when he asked that question he was really wondering if you and your exu00a0 ever had a real sexual encounter. If you ask me that was none of his business.
It's in the past and raking it up isn't going to help either of you. If you don't want to answer someone's questions just say you won't talk about it. That's the fairest thing to do. He has the right to walk away if he suspects the truth will haunt him, but if he stays then he has no right to get mad at you over whatever the truth is. I doubt he would ever tell you the truth about his liaisons if the question were ever posed to him. Just saying...
I think I might be gay!
Dear Diana,
Im 17 and still alone in the world. I'm relly scared... when I was younger I was the only one who never cared about girls! EVER! And when I was 15 I sort of figured out why! It's because I'm gay, I think? I never get aroused when I see pics of girls in the nude girls but if i see a nude guy, I'm sure you know what happens! I need advice about coming out and not being self-conscious about it.
Name withheld
Dear Friend,
It is possible you may be, but don't beat yourself up over this. Everyone has their own preferences, there's nothing wrong with you, its just the way you are.
Your feelings may change later in life or they may not. Either way accept yourself for the person you are. In any case, gays are more accepted than ever before now, so don't let this hold you back. Live your life to the fullest. Come out to those who care about you. Simply tell them. The rest don't matter.
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