I am a 25-year-old woman working for an MNC

He likes oranges, and I like apples. Will this last?

Dear Diana,

I am a 25-year-old woman working for an MNC. I am seeing a guy of the same age since the last three years. I am not planning to talk to him about taking our relationship to the next level. But before that I want certain doubts to be dispelled.

Actually all our tastes, favourites hobbies, etc are different. For e.g, he likes sports, reading books, watching thriller movies, and I like watching TV, and gardening, romantic movies.

We have nothing in common except that we both talk a lot. Till now, there has not been any problem beause of this. He has never tried to change me, nor have I tried to change him. Will these differences, create problems in the future?

Rajeshwari

Dear Rajeshwari,

Opposites attract. And if you really like this guy, don't let teh differences bother you.u00a0 If you both liked theu00a0 same food, same films, same books, wouldn't it be boring? Like with living with yourself. This way you can discover a whole new world.

There is beauty in diversity and you should look at it from this perspective. You also mention that he hasn't tried to change you which is a good thing. He loves you the way you are, and you too should do the same. Letting him enjoy his hobbies and interests while you enjoy yours.

He loves me but I don't feel that way about him

Dear Diana,

I am an 18-year-old girl. A guy who is a very good friend of mine loves me. The problem is I am not at all interested in him. I respect him a lot and don't want to lose him as a friend. What should I do? Please help
PN

Dear PN,

The best approach here is honesty. Tell him how you feel. Make him understand that he matters a lot to you, but you dont love him.u00a0 If you lead him on, eventually you might end up losing him as a friend.u00a0 Since you are clear you still want to be only his friend,u00a0 break this news sooner than later.

He says his mom doesn't want us to be together

Dear Diana,

I am 22. I met a guy online on a matrimony portal. He is 25. We started talking and we started liking each other. We both belong to the same caste and we both feel we are made for each other. One day, he proposed to me and we decided to get married.

We told our families about it but his mother is against this marriage. His mom has been emotionally blackmailing him and since then, he is not talking to me. I know he loves me very much and he's doing all this because of his mom. I don't know what to do. Please help.

Urvashi

Dear Urvashi,

If he doesn't have the backbone to stand up fopr you, he doesnt deserve you. There are tons of guys out there, who profess love to a girl, then vanish using 'family pressure' as an excuse. Dont kid yourself. If this guy really wanted to be with you, he would've fought with his family for you.

You'd be wasting your time waiting for this guy to change and come back to you. Better move on. If a guy truly loves you,then he will go to any extent to make things happen for you and for your life together. This guy just seemed to be looking for a reason to bail. Are you sure he really has family problems and isnt just lying to you? Haveu00a0 a talk with him, and end it. You cant wait around for a guy who doesmt want to return.