My boss is trying to hit on my girl. I wanna hit him!

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Dear Diana,
I am 23 years old. I love a girl in my office and she's pretty. She loves me a lot and we plan to get married in a couple of years. Trouble is, our boss has an eye for her (but he's only looking for a one-night stand). Nobody in office knows about our relationship and so, the boss is trying to get close to her. I have warned her about his intentions and she has promised me she will try her best to avoid him. I trust her completely and know she will do nothing that will jeopardise our relationship. She has even considered leaving her job but I know she has no work experience and that leaving without another job in hand is professional suicide. I wouldn't want that for her. I have asked her to ask to be shidted to another department so he won't bother her. And I will be leaving for a new job soon. But before I do, I am going to give our boss a piece of my mind. Is there anything else I ought to do?
Kamlesh

Dear Kamlesh,
There are some things one does because one is compelled to, while there are some things that one does because one has to. Depending on the authenticity of your allegations, you should have done the needful long ago if you were in the right. If you were wrong, however, it would show you as being unprofessional and insecure. Don't fall into the trap of making a choice between a rock and a hard place. Unless your girlfriend explicitly tells you that the guy is crossing his limits, don't do anything you'll regret. Why don't the two you get engaged and then, break the news to everyone?

Where do I find dissatisfied women?

Dear Diana,
There are many men and women whose wife or hubby is not interested in sex. I have read many times that women are not satisfied but have no exposure to men who are interested and the same goes for men due to society rules. I have tried chat rooms and many social networking sites but its useless.
Lovenest

Dear Friend,
'Society rules' exist for a reason. That said, if one wants to find other sexual partners other than their spouses, one has to look around. Prospective partners do not simply fall into your lap. And men who are interested in satisfying dissatisfied women? Do they want to take this up as a full-time occupation? What makes you a spokesperson for these types of guys?

The end of an affair...

Dear Diana,
I was in an extramarital affair for five months. It was initiated by my then boyfriend then, both of us have kids now. We broke offu00a0 three months back; he thought he wasn't being fair to his wife and kids. We are still in touch as friends.Whenever we meet we kiss each other, hold hands... do everything as a couple. Though he says he has moved on and has no feelings for me, I am still not able to come to terms. I still love and miss him badly. He is totally against going back into relationship again.

Name withheld

Dear Friend,
He began the relationship and he ended it as per his convenience. When was it ever something where you were in control? He never cared for your feelings or he wouldn't have initiated it in the first place. If you're intimate even now, despite being married and having kids, he just keep you at a distance so he can still have you, no strings attached. This isn'tworking out for you. Break up with him immediately!