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Dear Diana,
This might seem like a typical teenager's problem but it's really killing me inside. I need to share it with someone impartial.
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I'm a 16-year-old gal. My family misunderstands me a lot. They think that I'm addicted to my friends and don't care about or love my family.
And that's because I don't like to show my emotions to anyone as I believe it makes us weak in front of others. Whenever I get a phone call, I get worried that my dad might form a bad image of me in his head. Thing is I hardly even meet my friends after school as they live far away.
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And while my friends talk and meet up often, I can't even do that. Nobody at home understands this and my younger brother taunts me that I'm obsessed with my friends. What should I do?
Bhumi
Dear Bhumi,
Why don't you begin confiding in your mom? Having someone to share your problems with at home also means having an ally and a listening ear and a mediator when you need one. You'll never be able to go through this alone.
While a lot of people put friends before family, several family members take offence and really don't understand why you can't talk to someone at home. Saying that they wouldn't understand you, means you don't think much of them when it comes to understanding stuff.
And that is insulting. Nobody likes being told that they are incapable of understanding something. Also showing your emotions doesn't make you weak.
If those emotions manifest themselves, it shows that those emotions were strong as well. And if a phone call at home scares you, you might want to figure out why it would give your dad a bad impression of you.
Wanna be friends... what if she insults me?
Dear Diana,
I'm an average looking 19-year-old guy. I would really like to be friends with this girl from a different class. The problem is that I don't really have friends in my college.
She doesn't talk to anyone in her class either and might get abusive as well, I'm told. How do I approach her with the intention of being her friend without being insulted?
ABC
Dear Friend,
Well, that's a chance you will have to take. You cannot live your life in fear of someone. And why pick an impossible person as a friend?
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She seems a lot like you in the sense that the two of you don't make friends easily. People alike usually repel each other but you could try and be an exception. If you never try to find out if it could, you will never know.
I know her online. Meet her offline?
Dear Diana,
I am 25 and chat everyday with a girl from Pune for a month. We exchanged phone numbers and had long chirpy conversations too.
I will be relocating to Pune soon as I have got a job there. She seems to be a very nice girl and I want to date her.
The problem is that I am not sure how to convince her to meet me although she has given me enough subtle hints that she too would like to.
Do you think it is a good idea to meet a stranger? Also how do I know that she isn't fooling around?
Chaitanya
Dear Chaitanya,
You don't know if she is fooling around. That's the beauty of the internet.
Anonymity offers a great escape into the unknown and offers vast possibilities to different kinds of people. And not all of them are harmless. Subtle hints thrown your way are no hints at all.
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Ask her straight out if she would like to meet you. And if she does, go and meet her. Who knows where it might lead to?
Meeting a complete stranger is unpredictable and you're old enough to take care of yourself in the event of it not going the way you planned or if the girl you've been chatting up is a guy.
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