She doesn't want to be with me anymore. What to do?

Dear Diana,
I don't know what to do. I'm 19 and my girlfriend, who is 22, broke up with me over a week ago after asking me to stay for a week at her house.
u00a0
It came as a shock to me and I am still very hurt but she says she can't take the emotions involved and that she prefers being single and not having to worry about hurting me or the other way around. She said she still wants to be friends and hang out but only as friends.



This is not what I want. I feel she led me on since the begining when she told me I had changed her feelings towards relationships and that I could be the one.

As this is my first relationship, it's been very stressful for me. I've lost my appetite and sleep. We still email each other and I still tell her I love her but she seems to ignore this. How can I get her back?

Binoy
Dear Binoy,
You cannot do anything to change her mind. She has decided that a relationship with you is not for her. She has been honest and the week you spent together seems to have been the decider for her.

She is being gentle with you by telling you she wants to remain friends, but she is not lying to you by telling you she still loves you. You must stop seeing her, and beingu00a0 in contact with her,although this may not be what you want to hear, you have to acceptu00a0 that it is over and you need to move on.

You need to eat and sleep or you will just make yourself ill. You will eventually find the right girl. Most people have a lot of relationships and go through a lot of hurt and pain before they find their right partner.
u00a0
It is just part and parcel of life, love and the universe. This isn't the first time you will have your heart broken, and it won't be the last.

You are just 19, you still have your whole life ahead of you. Eventually we all learn to deal with pain and rejection and even get over it.

How do I improve my posture?

Dear Diana,
I am 5 feet tall and my husband's height is 6ft 2in. I walk with stopping shoulders and neck, like an older person.
u00a0
I want to overcome this, walk straight, sit straight. Can you suggest some ways or exercise? I am house wife and can't go out of home.

Ramni
Dear Ramni,
Having good abs helps your posture, like soldiers. They stand the way they do because of doing lots of sit-ups, and are trained to hold their heads up, chest out, stomach in.

Practice this when sitting, back straight, stomach in, head up. Remind yourself to do so, every minute of the day.

He left me but hasn't asked for divorce....

Dear Diana,
My husband of 21 years walked out on me 19 months ago because he had a mid life crisis. He now lives with his parents but has a girl friend 13 years younger than him. His new girlfriend has a three-year-old son (not my husband's).

I would like a divorce, but he hasn't brought it up at all. I am living with our three children at a temporary accomodation.

I don't know if i would be entitled to a settlement or even alimony if I asked for divorce. He is not earning a lot, and doesn't even have a lot of assests that he can sell. Please guide me.

RM
Dear RM,
First of all, don't wait for him to initiate the divorce. He may not be doing it because he doesn't want to be seen as a bad person or it suits him just fine to not pay you anything and just pretend that life with you never existed. But you have just reason to initiate a divorce yourself, in that he left you.

As far as rights go, you need to speak to a lawyer. If you cannot afford one, there are social workers you can talk to, who will guide you on this matter and get you lawyers who will even fight the case gratis for you.

So, get a solicitor and initiate the divorce yourself and get rid of this guy who has left you and your kids homeless.