I just don’t feel a connection...
Updated On: 23 September, 2023 07:23 AM IST | Mumbai | Dr Love
Evaluate the seriousness of what he has done and gauge his actions rather than his words when he asks for forgiveness. With time, you may feel differently

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My best friend recently introduced me to a guy who she says is perfect for me. He was smart, interesting, well behaved, and clearly interested in me. However, for some reason, I just didn’t feel any connection. We had a nice dinner, but I didn’t feel the urge to contact him or chat over the following days. My friend says he is the right person for me and that I am not in the right frame of mind to accept this. I don’t know if her theory makes sense although she knows me better than anyone else in my life. Is there such a thing as meeting the right person at the wrong time? What if she’s right and I am unable to see what she means?
Your friend means well, but this really depends only on how you feel about this person. He may be perfect and right for you, but that doesn’t mean it’s going to work if you don’t feel a connection. A situation like this will inadvertently lead to one person trying harder than the other, which isn’t ideal. You don’t have to agree with your friend. What you can do is wait for a while and consider a second date, or chat with him after the date to try and get to know him better. If that doesn’t change how you feel about him, trust your instincts.
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