Dr love with Mid-day: Can’t imagine my life without her...

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I am convinced that my girlfriend doesn't love me and have accepted that our relationship isn't going to last much longer. She hasn't come out and said it, but we are both just waiting for the other to make it explicit. If this happens, I don't know if I want her in my life, even as a friend, because I will be too hurt to accept this change. Am I being immature for thinking about this? I have loved her for years which is why the idea of this relationship not working makes it so hard for me to think about a future where she isn't with me. What should I do?
You can still love someone and accepting them as a friend has everything to do with how you value them and whether you need their presence in your life. Coping with the end of a relationship will be hard and your feelings are natural, but you can give yourself some grace and take the time you need to handle this inevitable period of grief and adjustment before deciding whether you can cut this person out of your life. You don't have to make any decision now, but it may be a good time to work on communication because it sounds as if that has broken down between you two.

My ex-boyfriend has moved on and is getting engaged to someone in a few months. I still love him and think I should tell him this before something irreversible happens. I know he may dismiss me, but I don't want to regret not saying this while I still have a chance. My friends think it's a bad idea because he hasn't given me any indications that he will take me back. Am I just asking for my heat to be broken all over again?
If he is committing to a life-long relationship with someone else, he is making his decision obvious. You can tell him how you feel but ask yourself what you hope to accomplish too.

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