Dr love with mid-day: My friend doesn’t like the guy I like...

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My friend thinks that a guy I like isn't someone I should trust or have a relationship with. She has only met him once, while I have been on four or five dates with him. I really like him a lot, but I know my friend has my best interests at heart and won't say something like this if she isn't serious. Should I keep meeting him or listen to my friend? I know he likes me and I am sure he will ask me to consider a relationship with him soon, so I don't know what to do. If I keep meeting him, I am sending the message that I am interested, but I don't want to dismiss my friend's concerns. I am just confused. What should I do?
Ask your friend to try and be more specific and think about what you know too. You have met this person a few times and are better equipped to gauge whether your friend's concerns are valid. Your friend may have your best interests at heart, but decisions are easier to make when you have information you can use. Ask more questions, try and get a sense of where this concern is coming from, and see if you can allay them with what you think is real. Also, just because someone asks you to consider a relationship doesn't mean you have to if you aren't ready. You can always be honest and ask for more time. If he isn't okay with giving you that, you will have your answer about whether this has any potential as a relationship.

I may have blown my chances with someone by calling him too often. How do I fix this?
Don't overthink it. Calling someone too often isn't reason enough to ruin something because you can always have a conversation about what is or isn't acceptable. Ask if he is annoyed and if you should tone it down because that's a mature way of figuring out what works best in such a scenario.

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