Dr love with Mid-day: He loves to talk to other women...

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My boyfriend loves the attention he gets from other women whenever we go out. He's always chatting with strangers and has no problem leaving me alone to talk to them for extended stretches. We have only been dating for a few months, so I don't say anything to him, but I am worried that this is a red flag. Should I say something and ask him to be more present when I am around, or is this just his nature? I don't want to create a problem if it doesn't exist, but I can't tell if I am being insecure or if this is a sign that I can't rely on him being there for me.
It's been three months and you are both in the process of figuring out aspects of each other's personalities. It's possible that some of the things he does will upset or bother you, but the only way you will be able to resolve this is to have conversations about it. Ask him why he forgets about you when other people are around, tell him what that makes you feel, and work towards getting to a place where you both have a better idea of what you expect from each other. This is a slow process, and requires patience, so allow this relationship to evolve in its own time. If this gets to a point where you are upset for a prolonged period, and he isn't doing anything to address it, that's when you can think of it as a red flag because it is behaviour that is incompatible with what you are looking for.

Should I be moving on from someone who isn't sure about being with me or continue holding out until she changes her mind and decides? We keep going on dates, but she says she can't commit.
Choosing to wait or move on is your prerogative, but this depends upon how much you want this person in your life. If someone is asking for time, why can't you give it?

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