Dr love with mid-day: His ego is bigger than our connection

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My boyfriend and I have issues when it comes to how we resolve our arguments. He tends to shut himself away and not say a word for days, always assuming I will fix things. I told myself that I wouldn't do this any longer. We had a fight a week ago and he has yet to message or apologise. I am adamant that I won't be the first to cave in and reach out, but I am starting to wonder if he sees this relationship differently from the way I do. It's like an ego thing that prevents him from being the first to communicate. It's starting to worry me because I want us to have fewer fights and smaller periods of silence between us. What should I do?
You should wait until he responds and, if he doesn't, accept that this isn't someone who respects or values you. Relationships are built on communication, and mature adults recognise how serious and important it is to be able to say what's on their minds. His behaviour may be dismissed as childish or driven by ego, but it also points to potential problems in the future because it will prevent you both from handling challenges and resolving more serious concerns that inadvertently crop up when two people spend more time together. If this is someone you are serious with and are intending to be with for a long time, the sooner you insist on addressing this, the better. If he can't do that and refuses to see how it can get in the way of building a strong relationship with you, the chances of your being together for an extended period of time are slim.

People are saying that my fiancé can't be trusted and I am starting to panic. How do I know if they are lying?
If you can't trust your fiancé, anything and everything said by other people can derail your relationship. First ask yourself why there is no trust before you commit to a lifelong relationship.

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