Dr love with Mid-day: I feel like he is rushing me....

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I have been dating a guy for a year, and he has been talking about marriage and children a lot lately. I know I can consider marrying him because I love him, but this is moving too quickly and it's putting unnecessary pressure on me. We have time and I want to enjoy our relationship without worrying about the future just yet, but whenever I tell him to change the topic he gets upset and thinks I am not taking him or our love seriously. It's frustrating because it feels as if he is too emotional about this. If it continues, I will just break up even though I know we are very compatible. How do I handle this situation and get him to stop before we reach that breaking point?
If he isn't willing to accommodate your point of view, this isn't going to work. If you are not on the same page when it comes to life goals, this isn't going to work. If he isn't moving at a pace that matches yours in this relationship, this isn't going to work. The fact that you are willing to consider the end of your relationship is a sign that this is serious and that it isn't being addressed. Tell him where you are mentally and inform him about the impact on your relationship. If he doesn't acknowledge your perspective and make these changes, you will have to do what is best for your mental health. There is no other way to manage a situation like this because a relationship where you aren't being listened to is not one that will last, despite how much you love each other.

Am I wrong to be in love with my best friend? I don't know how to tell her this because I feel guilty even mentioning it.
If this is your best friend, being able to communicate with openness and honesty is critical. Tell her how you feel because it is the only way to find out what she thinks.

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