He has completely ghosted me...

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How do I make my ex-boyfriend realise that I still love him and have feelings for him? We dated for three years and broke up multiple times in between, but I think I always assumed he would be in my life forever. When we last broke up, six months ago, he said he would not contact me again because he didn't want to stay in touch. I thought he was just being dramatic, but he has not messaged even once and doesn't respond to my calls. He has removed me from his social media contacts, and I don't know anything about what's going on in his life. I don't even know if he is still single, but I want him back and don't know what to do. Should I go to his place and insist on a conversation?
He has been very clear about his intentions and has continued to stay away which is a definite message about his feelings. Going to his home may not accomplish anything more than aggravating him even further because he doesn't want you in his space. As an adult, you are entitled to your personal boundaries, as is he. You may have feelings for him, but a relationship is never one-sided. If he continues to avoid any contact, you should ask yourself how long you're willing to wait in hope, and when you think it's a good idea to accept this decision and move on. It will be hard, of course, but it doesn't seem as if you have a choice at this point.

My girlfriend and I fight constantly, and I know it's because I have some family issues that put me in a bad mood. How do I protect her from this?
You can start by apologising, being more open about what you're dealing with, and asking for help instead of turning her into an adversary. If you are aware enough to accept that you are causing these fights, try and reinforce the idea that you can stop them too.

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