He seems to be way too touchy!

Illustration/Uday Mohite

I have been in a long-distance relationship with a guy for around a year, and he has changed a lot since we began dating. We were together in the same city for a few months before he moved, and we both knew things would be difficult but have somehow managed to maintain this relationship despite the ups and downs. The problem is how touchy he is, and how I find myself trying not to annoy him because I never know what I may say or do to push him into a dark space. His mood swings appear to have become worse since he moved. He is not very argumentative but, when he gets upset, he tends to be passive aggressive, and I am always the one who has to find a way of getting things back on track. I don't know if this would be easier if we could meet more often, but since that is not an option for a while, I am weighing the pros and cons of this relationship. Am I taking the easy way out by ending it, or should I stick to this until we can be together?
You alone can take that call based on how strong you feel mentally, what your feelings for this person are, and whether you think a long-term commitment is worth it based on what you know. Yes, long-distance relationships are difficult but only if things aren't being shared by both partners. If you are constantly compelled to do the heavy lifting, nothing you do will be enough and there will be more resentment at some point to make you question the possibility of a future together. Speak to your partner, tell him why his passive aggressiveness makes an already difficult situation harder to manage, and try having open conversations about what you both want from this relationship. If those goals or expectations don't align, you will have a better idea of gauging whether staying makes sense until you are capable of meeting each other more often.

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