How do we meet the right kind of women?

Illustration/Uday Mohite

My friends and I have been discussing why women we have been dating are not serious about relationships. It's as if they meet us for a few dates, spend time with us at restaurants, then decide that it isn't worth their time. At first, we were okay with this because we weren't serious ourselves, but we have been wondering if we are just going out with the wrong kind of women. What should we do to change this situation? It has been happening a lot and I am convinced there is something wrong with how we are approaching the idea of dating. Should we be more upfront about wanting to be in relationships when we ask someone out?
You can't generalise about women as a whole if you and your friends aren't in any serious relationships. You can't have discussions about what you are all doing wrong, if you aren't asking yourselves individual questions about what you want from a relationship. Yes, being upfront is always a good idea, but you should take some time off to try and understand why you are dating and to what end. Meeting as many new people as possible is a good thing, because you can't assume everyone has the same idea about going out without a purpose. Instead of assuming the worst, try and treat this as an individual issue rather than as something you and your friends are all doing wrong.

How do we maintain a relationship if we won't be able to meet for the next two years? My girlfriend doesn't have a choice because of work, and I don't know how we are going to manage.
Long-distance relationships are challenging, but not impossible if you are both willing to meet any potential challenges that arrive with this change. Technology makes things easier, but the fundamentals like love, trust, mutual respect, and open lines of communication can all go a long way towards making this easier than you think it will be. Always try looking at the big picture.

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