I’m 25 and have never dated!

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My friends have been in multiple relationships since they were in their early 20s. I am 25 and have never been in one because I date boys and then lose interest in them after the second or third date. This has been happening repeatedly for three years or so, and it has come to a point where I don't even feel enthusiastic about going out to meet new people. My friends say I am behaving in an abnormal manner, but I can't force myself to be excited about someone when I am not. Is this normal? I know I am probably being too hard to please, but I don't want to get into a relationship with someone just because it feels like the right thing to do.
You're perfectly okay the way you are and are very sensible about not doing things for the wrong reasons. Your friends may have their points of view, and they are entitled to them, but a relationship won't last if it isn't built on strong foundations. What you can do, for now, is go out and meet new people only if you feel strong enough to give them a chance. It's possible that you haven't met anyone who shares your interests, or someone you can have a conversation with. Also, meet them in the spirit of getting to know them, not with the notion that this has to end in a date or a relationship. Finally, understand and accept that you are allowed to make your own decisions and choose your own path. It's your life, and these choices are yours to make.

I don't know if I should end my relationship with my boyfriend because of his bad habits. When he goes drinking on weekends, he doesn't communicate and switches off his phone until the next morning. Is this okay?
If you don't like what he's doing, and he refuses to make any compromises, you will both need to have a serious conversation about what this means for your future together.

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