I think I am falling out of love

Illustration/Uday Mohite

I think I'm falling out of love with someone I have been with for almost four years. There is no effort from either of us to try and fix this, which only makes me wonder why I am still with him. What can be done to improve the situation? If he is as apathetic as I am, should I assume we are just prolonging the inevitable by staying together? Our parents think we are destined to marry, which is the only reason I haven't broken up yet. I won't want to regret this if I make a hasty decision and walk away. Is this the right thing to do?
You want to stay with someone because of your parents, not because you want to for yourself. if you can't bring yourself to discuss this with your partner, your relationship is already doomed because you have both given up. The first thing to do is ask him if he agrees with your assessment, because that conversation will give you both a chance to address this with honesty. A relationship cannot be saved by one person alone and even ending it should involve a discussion based on what each of you expects from the other. Staying on makes things worse, because it doesn't resolve anything and only prolongs the inevitable.

How do I know if I have made a mistake by getting back with someone I broke up with a few years ago? We wanted to give it another chance, and I thought things would be different, but we keep having the same arguments and I no longer know if I can do this. He seems to think we can make this work, but there are no signs of happiness, and it feels as if I am just waiting to feel something different.
If nothing appears to have changed for you, and your partner has a different perspective, you should both either acknowledge that more work needs to be put in or accept that this relationship isn't working for you.

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