I think I might have met ‘the one’

Illustration/Uday Mohite

I think I like someone a lot even though I only met him once and we had a conversation for just about 15 minutes. I can't shake this feeling because I have never felt like this about anyone before in my life. I am a 27-year old woman and not immature or unfamiliar with how relationships work, which is why I am so sure that this was a different interaction from anything I have known. This person could be the one I live with for the rest of my life, but I don't know what to do about it without freaking him out. Should I reach out and tell him the truth?
Why not reach out and ask him out to dinner or a cup of coffee first? Your instincts are valuable and perfectly legitimate, but they should be backed with facts and information. You know nothing about this person, his life, what he does, how he feels about relationships, or even if he is single. All of this has a strong bearing on how you perceive him and whether your feelings will alter in any way. Reach out, see what happens if he accepts, and try taking things slowly because that will show you a path forward.

How do I know if someone is just using me to provide comfort, and isn't really interested in a relationship going forward? This girl I know is aware of the fact that I like her, but she never reaches out unless she is feeling low or needs help with something. Whenever I ask her out, she comes up with excuses and says she will definitely meet soon, but it's always when she needs something from me. What do I do?
You have been clear about your intentions, and she has deflected them, which means she is sending you a message. Your feelings are clearly not being reciprocated, so either accept her as a friend or move on with the belief that a relationship with her is not going to happen.

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