My parents will not like him...

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I am thinking of getting into a relationship with someone I know my parents will definitely not approve of. They are strict and have specific ideas of the kind of person I should date, but I have always been very independent and want to consider this anyway because I think this person and I have a strong connection. I don't want to lie to my parents, but I also don't want to get into unnecessary arguments because I am an adult and believe I can make my own decisions. The reason for my hesitancy is what happens if this relationship becomes serious, and I have no choice but to involve my parents. I don't know if it will cause such chaos in our family that it will harm not just my relationship with this person, but with my parents. I am just afraid of too much drama, and don't know if I am being sensible at the cost of choosing to be unhappy. What do I do?
Being an adult and being able to make your own decisions is great, but you should also keep in mind that none of us can predict what anything looks like a few months down the line, let alone how a relationship will evolve. You and this person may get along well, or not at all after a while, and making decisions about your present based on what you believe may happen is not the most practical approach. Why not take this one step at a time, explore all possibilities, and give your parents the benefit of doubt? Why assume they won't be supportive? Lastly, this relationship hasn't even begun, so why not start there?

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