'He got drunk and ruined our anniversary dinner'
I wanted to do something special for my first anniversary with this guy, so I booked a place for dinner and asked him to turn up. Halfway through the meal, he got into an argument with me about something trivial
I wanted to do something special for my first anniversary with this guy, so I booked a place for dinner and asked him to turn up. Halfway through the meal, he got into an argument with me about something trivial, and proceeded to get drunk for the rest of the evening, ruining it entirely. I haven't spoken to him since that night, a week and a half ago. I have been waiting for him to apologise, but he hasn't bothered to even check on how I am or why I haven't spoken to him. If this is how he behaves, should I even bother being in a relationship with him? It's selfish and insensitive. Instead of apologising, he is waiting for me to call and ask how he is doing. What should I do?
Is this how he usually behaves? Do most of your arguments end with him getting drunk and then waiting for you to apologise? If you think this is a pattern, it's going to be hard for you to try and change who he is, because it's obvious that he doesn't respect you as much as he ought to. If this isn't a common occurrence though, it may be possible that there was more to this than just a simple argument. If you want to find out why he behaved the way he did, your decision to reach out to him or wait for him to call first has to depend upon whether or not you want to have a serious relationship with him. Yes, what he did was childish and he really ought to apologise, but maybe you can figure out what the deeper issue is and slowly get him to open up about why he behaved the way he did. People can be childish and egotistical at the wrong times. How you choose to handle this depends on your ability to be more mature than he currently is. Take your time and examine how you feel about him before you make a decision.
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