'My friends are ignoring my calls'
Introducing Dr Love, who solves your relationship riddles in a confusing digital age
I recently changed my mobile phone and lost a lot of contacts. Now, a few friends of mine refuse to acknowledge my calls because I use a number they don't recognise. Are they just fickle or is there a genuine reason for their behaviour? Have I chosen the wrong friends?
I suppose this is what people mean when they refer to 'first world problems.' Our parents and their friends managed without phones. Try meeting them in person and sorting this out like they used to, back in the day when an MTNL phone line could take a decade or so to be connected.
There are many things I like about my husband, like the fact that he indulges me no matter what I want, from jewellery to holiday destinations. The thing I don't like is his frequent trips abroad by himself. He says it's about work, but I don't know if he's having an affair and is only nice to me to ease his guilty conscience. Am I wrong to think like this? He's a great guy, but I'm just a suspicious person and I don't know if this is what most married couples go through.
It's not what most couples go through, actually, unless there's a trust deficit. Also, if you recognise the fact that you are naturally suspicious, you really should give him the chance to prove that he's actually going abroad for a reason, instead of assuming that he's having an affair. Also, why does he need to go abroad to have an affair when he can have one here without having to pay for a ticket? Without trust, nothing your husband does will satisfy you, so I urge you to try and build that bond with him before you get to a stage where everything he does is suspect. Also, unless you have concrete evidence of him cheating on you, why paint him out to be a villain while acknowledging, at the same time, that he is a great husband?