'He wants to see where I work, meet my colleagues'
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Should I invite my boyfriend to my office? He wants to see where I work and meet my colleagues, which is strange, but he is very insistent. I am not curious about where he works, so I don’t know why he wants to do this. What do I do?
It’s your life and your office. Ask him what he’s curious about and, if you’re not comfortable inviting him, don’t. Your personal and professional lives are different and how you handle them is up to you alone.
I know a guy who I have spent a lot of time with over the past couple of years. I don’t know if he’s a good friend, but we are pretty close. He has made it quite clear that he has no feelings for me, but still ends up being angry whenever I tell him about dates I’m on or guys I am meeting. He acts very possessive and behaves as if I owe him an explanation for things I do. I don’t think I owe him anything because he doesn’t really play an important role in my life. It’s not like we are in a relationship, but he acts so controlling that I sometimes think he has feelings for me. Should I confront him and ask him what he wants, or just ignore him and stop telling him about my life?
He’s probably confused about how he feels, and you’re giving him a lot of importance for no apparent reason. If his opinion doesn’t matter, and you don’t owe him an explanation, why is this even a problem? What do you want to confront him about? Do you want him to be more than just a friend? Ask yourself why this bothers you, and what his presence in your life means, before figuring out how you want to deal with it. Also, recognise the fact that no one has the right to control your life in any way. It’s your prerogative alone to give anyone that kind of power.
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