I think it's love, but he never thought that way

Valencia

Dear Valencia,

It is awkward . You're the one that backed off in the first place. You cite work and your career as your first priorities and then wonder why he won't talk to you. You ignore him first and he's bound to ignore you right back.

It could be that the two of you were good at conversation and nothing else. Maybe, he never had romantic feelings for you in the first place? I think you should break the ice and call him to see what he's up to and to know if the problem really is something else.

It's going the 'pehle aap' way...

Dear Diana,

I'm 23, he's 27. He knows I love him and that he loves me right back. There just hasn't been a formal proposal. Now he tells me that he's due to marry in a few months and my parents are looking around for a match for me, too.

I cannot find the courage to tell him I love him and wonder why he hasn't proposed as yer. I call him regularly just because I love him and don't want to lose him. What more can I do?

Name withheld on request

Dear Friend,

I really find it absurd that two people who can tell each other everything under the sun, have to wonder why the other isn't taking a swing at the question of love first.

Maybe, he knows you love, not just that way? Just drop subtle hints that you're expecting him to propose and wait to see if he gets it and does the needful. Other than that, there's little else you can do.

He wants her to give an 'agnipariksha'

Dear Diana,

Now, a friend's wife needs to prove that she has not had sexual relations with anyone but her husband. Is there a medical test that can determine and prove that? My friend suspects his wife of having an affair with another guy sometime in Sept-Oct 2008 while he was abroad and wants to leave her if she doesn't do the test. Can the test be done in Mumbai itself? If yes, where? How much will it cost them?

XYZ

Dear Friend,

For something that allegedly happened as early as September, it is impossible to conclusively prove without a doubt that she has had sex with another guy, other than if she has conceived on a date that the husband couldn't possibly have been in town.

Unless there's hard evidence she's cheated, he can't even say for sure that she's done it. Gut feelings rarely support anything unless backed up by hard evidence. What tests? That's something only a doctor will be able to help you with.