Family thinks he is great, but I don’t!

Illustration/Uday Mohite

I am trying to end a relationship with a guy who is very toxic for me, but my family and friends repeatedly make it difficult for me by telling me how lucky I am to have him in my life. They think he is a great guy, and they're right to a certain extent. They also believe he's a catch for reasons that are financial and which don't really mean much to me. I have to get out of this for my mental well-being because I believe he has a controlling aspect that will only get worse as we get older. I don't want a long-term relationship with someone who will destroy my life at some point, and no one sees this because they don't know him the way I do. I don't have the strength to end this without anyone's support, so this has been playing on my mind for months. How do I get out of this situation?
If you are sure about what this is doing to you, there is no reason to rely on family or friends because your mental health is of the highest importance. If they can't see things from your perspective, go with what you think is best for you. Your family and friends may have the best possible reasons for why you should stay in this relationship, but none of those reasons matter if you don't think this person is right for you. End it and then ask for their support. If they genuinely care about you, they will rally behind your decision. It sometimes takes people time to get around to acknowledging what is right, but time always helps.

Should I ask my girlfriend to marry me because she expects me to? We have been together for four years.
The years you have spent together mean nothing if you both don't feel the same way about spending the rest of your lives together. Think about that first, before making any decision. Her expectations need to match your own too.

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