Dr Love with Mid-Day: He gave no reason for the break-up!

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A few weeks ago, my boyfriend whom I have been in a long-distance relationship with for a year, broke up with me. It came out of the blue because we had no issues or serious arguments that made me worry about where this was going. When I asked him for a reason, he said he didn't have one, which has only made it harder for me to deal with his decision. If there was someone else in his life, it would have been easier to understand, but this only makes me question myself and wonder if I did something wrong. Should I try to make this work or assume there is no hope if he can't even be honest about why he decided to do this?
You can try asking for an explanation but, the fact is, he has done what he did knowing that this will be harder for you to cope with. Long-distance relationships are never easy, and there may be no way of knowing what the reason is, but it doesn't change the reality of what has occurred. Your feelings of pain and confusion are normal and understandable, so take some time to process what has happened before trying to reach out. If he continues to say nothing, accept that this is someone who isn't giving you the respect you deserve. What you choose to do next will then depend upon how you see yourself through his eyes.

I keep falling out of love and don't know if it's because I am with the wrong people or if there is something wrong with me. How do I have a stable relationship that is consistent?
Are you being honest with yourself about your reasons for wanting to be in a relationship, and whom you are choosing to be with? Think about your expectations, why you commit to someone, and at what point you start to lose interest. If you don't have answers yet, try being by yourself for a while instead of getting back into dating.

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