Dr Love with Mid-Day: I don’t understand his moods at all!

Illustration/Uday Mohite

I am a 25-year-old woman and I am confused about a guy I met online whom I really like. We have yet to meet in person, but I struggle to understand his moods which makes me wonder if we should meet at all. We connect at multiple levels, and I sometimes think I would like to get into a relationship with him, but at other times it's as if we are speaking different languages and I don't even want to chat with him. He asked me if we should meet in a few weeks because he's coming to my city and I haven't given him a response because I don't know where this is going. What if I am making a mistake by letting him into my life? Should I block him and pretend we never met?
Meeting someone in real life is imperative if you want to get to know them, but you shouldn't discount your instinct either. Being online allows us to create a persona that may be radically at odds with who we really are, and that may be why you can't understand this person's moods. If you have questions about where this is going, meeting him is the best way to resolve them. If you aren't prepared to take that risk, moving on from this is the best thing to do because you are under no obligation to commit to anything. This may not sound like a resolution, but it really depends upon whether you want to make a decision based on chatting online or meeting in real life.

A few weeks ago, I split from my fiancé because we had issues that didn't seem to be close to any resolution. I have been panicking since then because I don't know if I was too hasty. Should I reconsider and then live with what happens?
It's normal to question a big decision that has life-altering implications, but you must have faith in yourself too. Think carefully about why you decided to end this.

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