Dr Love with Mid-Day: He is chatting with my fake account!

Illustration/Uday Mohite

A few weeks ago, I created a dummy account on Facebook and messaged my boyfriend pretending to be another woman. He began chatting with me soon after and has not said a word about me in those chats. He isn't flirting with me, but I am shocked at how easy it was for me to get him to start chatting with a stranger. I don't want to test him by seeing if he will say anything inappropriate to me, but I am starting to doubt everything about him and don't think I want to be with him anymore. I am guilty about doing this, but I think it's the right thing because it allows me to see a side of him I wouldn't have known existed. We have been together for two years and I have had no issues with this relationship until now. Am I making a mistake by letting him go? Is my reason good enough?
If you feel the need to test your partner without having any reason to, there is definitely something wrong with your relationship and you should think about that first. Strong relationships are built on trust, and that is the one thing that isn't coming through based on what you have said. If you can't trust your partner, everything else fades into insignificance because nothing will be enough to sustain a future together. Ask yourself why you felt the need to create this anonymous account, what you hoped to find, and why you think this relationship won't work even if he hasn't said or done anything inappropriate yet. If you have a problem with the idea of him chatting with another woman, this is a grey area because it will mean telling him the truth about what you have done and why you think you did it. Take some time to evaluate the nature of your relationship and ask yourself if the cons outweigh the pros of being with this person whom you have presumably had no problems with until now.

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