Hesitating as he is 10 years older...

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Should I date someone who is more than 10 years older than me? My family won't have a problem with it because they know him, but my friends tell me there will be serious issues after a few years because he won't be able to see things from my point of view as we get older. I see what they mean but I also like him. We have known each other for years and I respect what he has to say, so I have been seriously considering this because he recently asked me out. It is only my friends and their warnings that make me hesitate. What should I do?
Everything you are worried about is speculative at this point because things haven't progressed from the point where he has asked you out. You know this person and presumably have an idea of who you are too. Your friends may have your best interests at heart, but neither of you can predict what the future looks like when you aren't even in a relationship yet. Why not consider your feelings towards this person, treat his invitation to a date as nothing but an introductory conversation, and allow yourself time and space to understand him before jumping to any conclusion? It's possible that a date may convince you that there's no point continuing this, or that this is someone who understands you better than most other people. You are under no obligation to get into a relationship until you're ready, so why stop yourself when you don't know much about what might happen?

My unemployed wife does little around the house and this causes a lot of friction between us. How do I resolve this?
Financial issues can derail the strongest relationships, so the only way to resolve this is through honest conversations about your budgets, financial health, and future. This, like any other challenge you will face together, will require mutual respect, empathy, and a willingness to arrive at a solution.

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