How do I get out of depression?

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I have been extremely depressed since my relationship ended after two years of being together. I know I need some help, but my friends and family think that therapy may only prolong the process of getting out of this slump. They think I should jump back into dating, but my mind is just not in that space, and I can't even comprehend the idea of meeting someone or trying to get to know someone new. I don't know what to do because if I speak to a counsellor and it only makes me feel worse, my friends will just be annoyed with me and I need their support more than ever. I am just trying to get through one day at a time. How do I manage?
You should speak to a counsellor because it is obvious to you that you don't have the tools you need to cope. Your friends won't withdraw support just because you have tried to get help because, if they do, they aren't what true friends are supposed to be like. As for their theory of therapy prolonging your condition, all you have to do is speak to a professional and gauge if that conversation is helping you in any way. If it isn't, at least you can tell yourself you tried. At the very least, it may help you acknowledge that what you are going through is part of the grieving process that, in time, will ease.

My husband watches other women in front of me and comments on their bodies. He says it's healthy to do this because he is being honest, but I think it's wrong and he makes me sound like a prude when I tell him to stop. Is he right about this? Am I the one who should calm down?
Anyone who objectifies another human being should be called out. For him to dismiss your objections isn't merely an act of gaslighting, it is also extremely disrespectful to you, as well as the women he comments on.

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