I made a fake FB account to test him

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I wanted to test my boyfriend, so I made a fake Facebook account and messaged him. He accepted my request and has been chatting with me for a week or so. He hasn't said anything unusual, and told me he was in a relationship, which made me feel better, but I am still surprised that he just accepted a message from a stranger and began telling her about his life. I can't confront him about this because if he finds out that I created a fake account, things will be awkward for us, and he may stop trusting me. I don't want to delete the profile just yet because I want to see if he does or says something that makes me lose faith in him. What should I do?
It sounds as if you are going out of your way to prove that this relationship isn't as strong as you would like it to be. If you don't trust your boyfriend, try and figure out why that is, list specific reasons for feeling this way, and work on them. If you want to test him, ask yourself why you feel the need to do this, given that you are together. If the relationship feels as if it isn't as stable as you would like it to be, it makes more sense to focus on those troubled aspects, because setting up fake profiles on social media doesn't solve anything. Whatever you choose to do, try and first figure out what you want from this person, and whether this relationship is working. Deception doesn't help either of you.

Someone I had a crush on for over a year recently began dating a guy and I don't know how to react. I didn't tell her how I felt about her although I had a few chances, and I now regret that. Should I still go ahead and tell her?
You can if it makes you feel better, provided you accept that she has already made a fairly obvious decision already.

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