Is she interested in me or not!

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How do I know if I am reading the signs sent by someone correctly? I have been chatting with a woman I met at a party, and we have gone out a few times, but I am not sure if she is serious about a relationship. I sometimes think she is waiting for me to ask her directly, but then her tone changes and I feel like this is just socialising on her part. There is some hint of a romantic feeling when we meet, but I worry that it's only in my mind because she never says anything directly. I am worried about embarrassing myself which is why I don't know how to come out and ask her what her intentions are. Should I stop meeting her and see what happens?
Have you considered how you feel about her and what your hopes for this relationship are? Do you want to get to know her better or believe you have romantic feelings you would like to express? Sometimes, the best way to allow things to happen is to sit back and take the time to know the other person. Mixed
signals are always possible, but if you are afraid of being direct, use this time with her to find some clarity about how you feel. If she just wants to be friends, you will know it after a point because the nature of your meetings will define this. Be patient, think about what you want, and open up when you are comfortable. Ignoring her in the hope of finding out what she wants is immature.

How long should I give someone before I decide this relationship is not serious? I have waited for four months but my girlfriend still wants to keep it casual.
If she is clear about what she wants and her expectations from this relationship don't match with your own, it seems as if you already have your answer. To stay on in the hope that she changes her mind is your call alone.

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