19 January,2025 06:51 AM IST | Mumbai | Dr Love
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I have been asked to move to another country for six months as part of a training exercise. This is a great opportunity for my career, but I began dating someone a few months ago and I am worried about what this will do to our relationship. We are just beginning to get to know each other, and this move will undoubtedly have an impact on our future even if we are being optimistic about it. I asked him about this directly, and he admitted that he didn't know if it would survive a six-month separation. I know I shouldn't worry about this too much, but this is the first guy I have felt confident about in years, and it feels as if this is too important to treat casually. What should I do? I can always tell my office that I will undergo training a year later, but I know it will leave a mark on my professional future at the company.
You don't always have to sacrifice one aspect of your life to save another, because a long-distance relationship can be managed with a little bit of effort. You both have access to technology; there is a clear timeline of when you are supposed to leave and return; and this is clearly a temporary separation, not a permanent one. Yes, it will be difficult given that your relationship is new, but to approach it with pessimism won't help either of you. Also, remember that harming yourself professionally won't do your relationship any favours in the long run. The sensible thing to do is tell your partner how you feel about him, why this relationship is important to you and why you want to save it. If he values it as much as you do, and wants to see you succeed, it is a great sign that this really is someone you should work towards being with. Think of it as a period that can bring you both closer, despite the distance, and then make your decision.
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