She acts like she is better than me!

Illustration/Uday Mohite

My girlfriend recently made the down payment on an apartment and has since changed her attitude towards me because she feels superior. I earn less than she does, and she thinks this makes her better than me. I have tried to explain that our fields of work are different and that I am successful at what I do, but this purchase has started to make me feel as if she is doing me a favour by being with me. What should I do?
A relationship where two people don't feel or treat each other as equals is one that is doomed to be a disappointment in the long run, because the possibility of unnecessary power struggles is real. Tell her why you feel this way, ask her if she is interested in the relationship, and point out why things need to change if she wants you to be in her life. If these changes don't happen, move on.

I am a 34-year old graphic designer and am planning to approach a girl who is a studious, 28-year old psychotherapist. What concerns me is that she is an introvert with almost no interest in socialising. How should I approach her and what pros and cons should I keep in mind? Also, is it suspicious if someone doesn't have any social media presence, or is this a good sign?
- Swarup
There are too many presumptions being made here, starting with the possibility that the girl has any interest in you in the first place. There is nothing wrong with being an introvert, not being on social media, or preferring the company of family over friends. She may easily have the same issues with someone who is an extrovert, prefers friends to family, and the artifice of social media over real life. I suggest you put away your prejudices, try and get to know her before judging her, and find out if she has any feelings for you before looking for red flags, pros or cons.

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