Starting to wonder about our marriage

Illustration/Uday Mohite

I am a married man and have been with the same woman since we were in college together. It has been over a decade since we were married, but I have never been satisfied with the nature of this relationship for some reason. Neither of us ever dated anyone else. We got together when we were in our early twenties, and stayed together, eventually getting married because everyone assumed we would. I love my wife and know she loves me too, but I have begun to have doubts about whether this is the kind of relationship everyone else has. What if I missed out on a life of romance and passion simply because I was too afraid to step out of my comfort zone?
What you have is probably what a lot more people wish they could. It's fairly normal to question every aspect of a relationship, especially one that lasts longer than you think it will, but it also makes sense to evaluate what you have now and again. If you and your wife love each other, and have been together for so long, it's because the two of you didn't feel the need to meet other people. If you didn't date anyone else, it's because each of you found what you wanted in a partner. Our lives are full of ‘what ifs' every day, and there are a million paths each of us can walk down. Instead of focusing on what could have been, why not focus on how lucky you both are to have found each other?

My best friend recently told me that she thought I was dating someone who had cheated on me and didn't say anything because she thought I would stop speaking to her. I think I feel betrayed and want to end this friendship. What do I do?
She has explained why she behaved the way she did, and choosing not to speak to her pretty much shows that she was right to be afraid of your reaction, doesn't it?

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