Unable to forget my ex-girlfriend

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I am a 22-year old guy and was recently in a relationship with a girl two years older. We loved each other a lot but her parents disapproved of me, and she had to break up with me because she said she didn't want to get into arguments with them. I was heartbroken but I accepted her decision and haven't even messaged her since then. It has been seven months and I still can't get over her. I know it will pass with time because that is what everyone says, but I can't even ask someone out on a date because it feels as if I am betraying her. How do I put this behind me and move on when I can't even consider the possibility of being with anyone else? Should I ask her to reconsider even if her parents don't want her to be with me?
It has been seven months and you haven't been able to get over her. It has also been a period during which she hasn't reached out to reconsider her decision. It's possible that she is struggling with it too, but the fact remains that she has a right to do what is best for her, and she has gone with what her parents want her to do. You can message her but that doesn't mean she will change her mind. As for being able to move on, you have to trust in the grieving process and allow it to run its course. Some people forget and get on with their lives within days; for others, it takes longer. This is understandably difficult to do but is also part of growing up when one has no option but to accept the reality of some circumstances.

How do I ask someone out when he won't even acknowledge my presence?
Send him a message or approach him directly. At the very least, he will make his presumed lack of interest more specific. You have nothing to lose, so why not just reach out?

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