Dr Love with Mid-Day: I need more time to decide about him...

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I recently met a guy online with a dating app and we went out twice. I think I really like him, but I can't figure out if I just think of him as a friend or something else. I want to get to know a little better but there's a certain part of him that just wants me to commit to the idea of a relationship. It's as if he is afraid of the possibility that I may just suggest being friends. I know we met with a dating app but if I can't decide where I want to go with this, and he isn't going to give me an opportunity, I feel as if I may lose out on something. Should I get into a relationship first and then decide if I want to stay in it?
You're not asking for anything unreasonable and just because you met on a dating app doesn't mean you are compelled to get into a relationship. The idea of dating is precisely to get to know someone before figuring out your feelings for that person. If he can't give you the space you need to find out where this is going, it's a red flag you shouldn't ignore.

My sister is dating someone whom everyone in my family has problems with, and it's tearing our family apart. I don't know how to resolve this unless she breaks up with him. What should I do?
Assuming your sister and her partner are both adults, there's little you can do except try and initiate a better way of communicating. It's always possible that someone new may cause a rift in any family, but the underlying strength of feeling and the bonds that go deeper are what matter. It may be a question of time rather than the end of this relationship that resolves this. Tell her you're there for her, explain why this is causing pain, and allow her to do what she thinks is best for her because you can't control anything.

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