He’s chatting with my fake profile!

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I wanted to test my boyfriend, so I pretended to be someone on Facebook with a fake profile. He accepted my friend request, and we have been chatting, and I don't know how to deal with this. He hasn't said anything about me to this fake persona, but I find it strange that he would even be okay chatting with a stranger just because she happened to be female. I don't know if I should confront him but it's starting to feel like a red flag because I don't know if I can trust him anymore. What should I tell him? Is this something I should worry about?
It's definitely something to worry about but not necessarily for the reasons you suggest. If you feel the need to test your boyfriend, it is a sign that your relationship isn't as stable as you would like it to be. You have been prompted to create a fake profile because part of you believes you are with someone who needs to prove himself to you. This doesn't happen in a healthy relationship because they are built upon a feeling of mutual respect and trust. If you believe your boyfriend isn't being honest with you, or shouldn't be chatting with strange women, this is something you should be okay with discussing. You should also ask yourself some difficult questions about why you feel the need to test him, and what that says about you. If you can't find that ability to trust a partner, no relationship can evolve.

How do I get along with my boyfriend's family if they don't treat me seriously? It feels as if they assume I won't be with their son for too long, so I am always just looked at as an amusement. It is a very hurtful feeling.
The onus of fixing this lies on your boyfriend because he needs to speak up on your behalf and demand respect from his family. If you are being treated badly, his family need to be called out.

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