I think I should break up with him

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My boyfriend acts as if he isn't attached to me and wants me to know that I can end this relationship any time. He doesn't just say it when we are fighting about something, but also says it around friends, as if to tell me that I shouldn't take anything too seriously. I am aware that we are not committing to anything long-term, but I feel as if his behaviour is meant to keep me in my place or stop me from becoming too possessive. Either way, it has convinced me to break up with him and when I told him this, he began to get upset and say that I had misunderstood him completely. He wants me to stay in this relationship, but I am not convinced. What should I do?
You have arrived at this decision based on how you feel, as well as by acknowledging that he has treated you with a lack of respect. He may want you to stay but has offered nothing to convince you. If you are sure this isn't a serious relationship either, you should ask yourself why you need to be with him, what exactly he provides, and what needs are being fulfilled. If they outweigh the sense of disrespect you feel, you are free to give it another chance.

I don't know why married men are always attracted to me, and this bothers me because it feels as if I am giving off some kind of vibe that I am unaware of. I am not interested in being with a married man but have been approached by two of them over the past year, so I am concerned about this.
This has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them, so don't question yourself or your behaviour because no one who is married should be approaching someone single in the first place. If it happens again, be clear about where you stand and move on. To think that you're doing something wrong only absolves them.

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